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Merrill Markoe's avatar

Thank you Madame Gaines.

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Jeff Tiedrich's avatar

I'm forwarding this to the spouse so that after 39 years we can at long last finally have a proper marriage

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Merrill Markoe's avatar

The woman who married us was someone I knew from college. She has been with the same guy, unmarried, since then. I believe this gave the proceedings a certain spiritual authenticity.

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Mavis Jukes's avatar

Agree

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Mary Lavagnino's avatar

Well I’ve been married to the same guy for over 40 years. We don’t really argue, I just complain to my friends and our daughters. I presume he does the same

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Mavis Jukes's avatar

So funny. I would too - except everybody always is on Bob’s side. Pointless.

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Mavis Jukes's avatar

Ha ha! So funny! You’re a genius, we all know that.

I haven’t used these techniques because my cis male partner of 50+ years has always just clammed up. He has won every argument simply by avoiding direct eye contact and keeping his trap shut and, at the first opportunity, going out to his art studio.

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Merrill Markoe's avatar

Haa. He added new pizazz to passive agressive.

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Michele Miles Gardiner's avatar

My husband of 34 years has a similar technique. I think we've discovered the secret to long relationships. After avoidance, my husband knows I'll cave with humor or food.

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Noodles & Cabbage's avatar

I need to get an art studio!

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Christine Gunter's avatar

Thank you! This information is not only invaluable, but reminded me to include more interesting German words into everyday conversation.

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Merrill Markoe's avatar

My work here is done.

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Lucian K. Truscott IV's avatar

You forgot one, usually used by males: run.

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Merrill Markoe's avatar

Yes. True. But they didn't shoot a stock photo for that one. Oh well.

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Karl Straub's avatar

This piece brought me right up to the edge of learning something, and I can’t say I’m happy about that. But this substance is nicely balanced out by the excessive amount of German, the International Language of Comedy.

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Merrill Markoe's avatar

Haaa. This is my second pass at working with German. Here is my first one.:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kx2sQuPo_aA

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Karl Straub's avatar

Ok, now that is just sick, lady.

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Sally's avatar

Hahahah! Loaf hands!

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Pamela's avatar

Schadenfreude may also be induced by the more sadistic of the 2 sis persons in the relationship. The exact moment when said sadist finds they have lost the “spat”but have caused the partner to be as FURIOUS as possible * (which is the point) ....they laugh, which may cause the partner to either cry or throw a heavy object at the head of said sadist.

*(One should never rob the other of the satisfaction of saying “I told you so”)

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Madeleine SMITHBERG's avatar

Hilarious!!

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Gaines's avatar

Ich Kann Damit Nicht Klarkommen ... so good

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Noodles & Cabbage's avatar

The German. Is. Everything.

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Em Allyn®️™️'s avatar

I never knew the technical term for Monkey Mouth but I have both seen and done it in my life!!!!!

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Cat Cafe's avatar

THE GERMAN TERMS. MM, I am DECEASED. Laughing SO HARD omg. --PP

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Merrill Markoe's avatar

You are a cheap date, Ms Cafe.

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painedumonde's avatar

J'en ai marre des mains et des visages !

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Merrill Markoe's avatar

So pleased I am finally attracting an internationale audience.

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